Tom McElhanon

Tom Marion McElhanon

Friday June 21, 1929 - Friday December 6, 2019
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Marlow: Tom Marion McElhanon, passed away Friday, December 6, 2019 in Duncan, at the age of 90.

Graveside Services will be held at 1:00 PM, Wednesday, December 11, 2019, at the Marlow Cemetery with Military Honors conducted by Stephens County Honor Guard. All arrangements have been entrusted to the Callaway-Smith-Cobb Funeral and Cremation Services in Marlow.

Tom was born Friday, June 21, 1929 in Blair, to Ode Ross and Mary Lou (Fraser) McElhanon. He graduated from Marlow High and had lived in the Marlow area all of his life. Tom married the love of his life, Virginia Legg in Duncan on February 14, 1954; they had been married for 58 wonderful years before her passing on February 4, 2013. Tom worked for Halliburton for 35 years in the Data Processing Dept. He took 2 years off from Halliburton to serve in the United States Army in the Korean War. Following retirement from Halliburton, Tom drove a bus for the Marlow Schools for more than 20 years. He enjoyed going to the casino and watching game shows as well as video poker. Tom loved his family dearly and enjoyed spending time with his family.

Survivors include, his son, Bruce McElhanon of Marlow, his daughter, Jayme Rowe of Norman, 3 grandchildren, Jennifer Rowe Walters and husband Darrin of Norman, Jill Rowe Slay of Oklahoma City, Jarrod Rowe and wife Karin of Oklahoma City, and 6 great-grandchildren, Christian Slay, Elizabeth Slay, Jack Walters, Alice Walters, Lucas West, and Meyer Rowe. He is also survived by 2 sisters, Nadean Baxter of Longview, TX, Jewell Lambert of Garland, TX, as well as numerous nieces and nephews, and several brother and sister-in-laws.

Along with his wife, Tom was preceded in death by his parents, a brother, Ode Ross McElhanon, II, 2 sisters, Treasure Welsh, Ozia Smith, and a grandson, Jason Slay.

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Service Details

  • Service

    Wednesday December 11, 2019 | 1:00pm
    Wednesday December 11, 2019 1:00pm
    Marlow Cemetery
    905 North Ash
    Marlow, OK
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    Rev. Ron Orf
  • Interment

    Marlow Cemetery
    905 North Ash
    Marlow, Oklahoma
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email


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June Whaley

Posted at 07:37pm
To Mr. McElhanon’s family. My husband Bennie Whaley & myself June got to know Mr. McElhanon at the casino. He would sit down by us & talk to us when he saw us. When he told me who he was I told him I went to school with Jayme at Marlow. He spoke highly of Jayme. I don’t know if Jayme remembers me or not. I was June Windsor. I went to Bray the latter part of my freshman year. sounds like he had a full happy life. We just want to say how sorry we are for your loss. Glad we got to know him.

Valariee Jinks

Posted at 03:27pm
T.M. certainly a lover of life and he was always happy to know i had a hug for him and he would ask Stephen if i was still taking good care of him. We will miss you TM but i glad he is dancing with virginia in heaven now. Standing in praise of our Lord and savior

Grace McIntyre

Posted at 03:30pm
Jayme, so sorry to hear of your dad's passing, he was such a nice man. May God comfort you during this difficult time.

Donna Holland Hornback

Posted at 10:52am
T M and Virginia were our neighbors on Choctaw for years. Good memories of them along with Jayme and Bruce. Thinking of you at this time. The Holland Family..
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Dorothy Smith

Posted at 03:17pm
He would come into the cafeteria every Friday for sausage, biscuits and gravy. Sorry for your loss

Charles Jones Posted at 11:26am

Sending our love and prayers to you, Jayme and Bruce. T. M. Was a very sweet and happy man. So proud to have him for an uncle! Love you all, Renae and Chuck Jones. ❤️❤️❤️

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